Although there is a variety of ways for teenager to perceive their parent's divorce, based upon the premise of the divorce and the mind-set of the teenager, in most cases youngsters either blame themselves or their mother and father. Both of these circumstances lead to changes in a teen's personality which can be long-term and quite hazardous.
When teens blame their parents, they tend to believe that their parents don't care about them and that they are the ones accountable for jeopardizing their life-for divorce comes with results which are an amalgam of financial problems, moving to another place, parental negligence and a new family setup. This makes the teens hate their mother and father and do anything that would show to their parents that they don't care about them possibly. Teenagers, with this belief, tend to argue with their parents, show disruptive behaviors in schools, lose interest in studies, indulge in sexual behavior, inflict abuse on others, use drugs and join a risk-seeking group. These kids become very sensitive, stubborn and rebellious and feel embarrassed on the very mention of their parents' divorce. To overcome their embarrassment they keep their guard up by either isolating themselves or being so offensive that people would let them be.
It may seem to some people that teenagers are old enough to comprehend thetechnicalities of a relationship and can accept the crude reality of divorce and separation. But teenagers are just as vulnerable as little children, if not more, and to save on their own from the painful truth and to avoid hating their parents, teenagers start accusing themselves for the divorce. Such teenagers tend to tumble-down the tunnel of guilt and dismay. They go into serious depression and try to make up for what they consider is their fault, by taking extra care of their parents, being overprotective and taking up too many obligations This kind of attitude reflects in their poor grades and nonexistent social life, as their time is spent trying to mend the broken family. They dwell in a fantasy world which they cannot escape-a psychological bound with no end.
Divorce is a challenging decision which has no roundabout, though that doesn't mean that teenagers must live via the agony alone. Guidance for the teenagers along with their parents can help the teenager comprehend that no one is to blame. After all, teenage is a very delicate and crucial stage of life and divorce can make it even harder to get by.
